Transgendered
Expression
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This article is written using opinions and conclusions formed from personal
observations, information gathered from ‘surfing’ the net’s transgender
related sites, and from extensive reading. Comparisons used in this
article are purely meant to make distinctions between the typical feminine
personality and that of a straight male. It is not meant to devalue
men as a whole in anyway. |
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is our spouse, friend, or lover really trying to express? |
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heterosexual cross dressers, if able to verbalize it, will tell us that
they are trying to express and experience the finer qualities that being
a man will not let them indulge in. Enjoying beauty, emulating their
wife, mother, girl friend might be the objective. Unfortunately,
these qualities are not appreciated in today’s society. While indications
are that this is slowly changing, the image of the ‘macho’ man is still
revered. Upon closer look, we wonder why. What qualities does
the macho man possess? Adjectives include gruff, coarse, tough among
others. What qualities do the crossdresser try to emulate and express?
Kindness, warmth, tenderness, beauty and the list could go on and on.
Women are expected to be wise, understanding and gentle. Men are
expected to be ‘gatherers’ or breadwinners. This persona sometimes
includes bossiness, rudeness and the self-centeredness it takes to get
ahead in life. |
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a woman what she is trying to express with her femininity and most likely
she will tell you that she is merely trying to be herself. Ask a
crossdresser what he is expressing and most likely he will tell you the
same thing. It makes them feel good about themselves that for part
of their lives they exist in femininity and beauty. This is a good
time to remind ourselves of the qualities associated with femininity –
kindness, warmth, tenderness and an appreciation for beauty. |
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you are involved with a crossdresser, whether it is as a spouse, friend,
or lover, and you are totally honest with yourself, isn’t it quite possible
that these are the qualities that attracted you to this individual in the
first place? These are extremely admirable qualities. We all
know that it is impossible to change someone. Reviewing these qualities,
who would want to? |
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| Written
by Becca – Trans-Gender Expression’s Director of SOFFA Affairs |
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Contributions
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While all of our site is open to your contributions and suggestions, the
forums area in particular depends upon them. If this area is to become
the source for information and support that we know it can be, then it
is all of our transgendered sisters & brothers that will make it so.
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